Tuesday, January 25, 2011

I, caregiver: Thoughtful gifts for the ill

I, caregiver: Thoughtful gifts for the ill

satu artikel yg menarik perhatian saya hari ahad lepas - tentang gifts/barang yang boleh kita hadiahkan kepada pesakit yg kita lawat di hospital - tak terfikir lak yg bunga sebenarnya kurang sesuai sebagai gift - walhal kita dok tengok dlm tv, asal tgk org sakit je, bawak bunga - kan dah salah maklumat tu.
tahniah kepada juneita johari, penulis artikel ni, sebab dah beberapa kali saya baca, tulisannya banyak menyedarkan saya tentang perkara2 lain, yg kita rasa remeh tapi sebenarnya penting


I’VE been in and out of hospitals nearly my entire adult life and have met not just visitors but also family members, relatives, friends, doctors and nurses.

I notice we seldom visit empty-handed. Pretty fragrant flowers and/or fruit baskets are most popular.

Then we were advised that fruit and flowers should be discouraged because flowers have pollens and insecticide and may be bad especially for patients in intensive care or with breathing problems. Fruit too may not be good for those on a restricted diet.

So what can we bring? My late mother used to recommend food items, especially for patients who have a caregiver who may not have the time to get meals or who prefer not to eat hospital food.

Timing is essential. You would not want to bring food after dinner or bring food that can easily spoil and emit bad smell.

If you know a patient is on a strict diet but cannot resist foods they should avoid, it is unkind to bring food.

Some years back I was admitted for pneumonia. I was so miserable. On the fourth day, when I felt a lot better, I received a small gift with an attached note: “Hope this cheers you up. Get well soon.”

It contained a small essential oil lamp with one-time use facial masks and scrubs. How delightful! When my sister visited later, she played beautician.

It was one of the most thoughtful gifts I’d ever received. It certainly went down on my list of gifts to give patients, along with travel-size shampoo, conditioner, soap and body lotion. I also find “dry shampoo” to be extremely useful for the bedridden.
When my mother was in hospital and not well enough to get out of bed, a hairstylist friend recommended the dry shampoo. It was so easy to use. I tried it on myself first. It was good and we both liked it.

My mother also received two types of blankets once — one small and cheery, the other a standard-size cotton blanket. She loved them. The cheery blanket took away the sombre mood of a hospital room.

On another occasion, she received a pashmina that came in handy for those of us who could not stand the air-conditioning. We took turns to use it.

A friend would keep a small bowl of sweets on her food table with a sign that reads “Please take one, especially if you’re a nurse”. She requested us to bring interesting sweets or chocolates.

When asked, she said the sweets were not for her but for her visitors and she wanted the nurses to be sweet on her too so that they would come by often to check on her.

Jellies are popular too. They are great for children and those who have just had an operation.

After tonsillitis surgery, the first thing my son asked for, apart from jellies, was his music. He could not be parted from his iPod. It was the same for my late father who asked me to download all the oldies and verses from the Quran.

There’s so much we can do to help people feel better. Caring does not begin and end with a hospital stay.

The trick is to find out what works for that person. If you know them well enough, then your task is that much easier.

Remember, you don’t always have to bring or buy something. Sometimes, a happy face, a cheery smile and a few good jokes or stories will do the trick.

This is why I have always admired creative people — especially those who are creative with their words, thoughts and gesture. They bring out the colour in life, making it vibrant for the intended person and to those around them.

Usually, their actions and deeds speak louder than words but the memory these make lasts for quite a while. And each time a kind gesture is remembered, the good, warm feeling is relived and brings about a smile

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Monday, January 17, 2011

Reunion SMACH94 15 Jan 2011 at Shah Alam


nie antara makanan yg ada ... terima kasih bebanyak kpd tuan rumah & kengkawan yg bawak


antara anak-anak yg ada malam tu, nasib baik ada cerita karton - khusyuk la kejap, maklumla parent diorang sibuk bersembang!



my daugther , Yasmin & anak kawan - Kasih


malam sabtu lepas, 15 Jan 2011 kami sekeluarga menghadiri reunion kat rumah teman sekolah di Shah Alam. walaupun pagi tu sebenarnya ada program di sekolah, kami usahakan juga agar dpt turut serta - yelah, dah hampir 17 tahun kami habis tingkatan 5, ada rakan yg selalu berjumpa, malah ada yg tak pernah jumpa. tuan punya rumah buat bbq , masing2 bwk makanan , yg sponsor rusa pun ada.

ramai jugak yg hadir malam tu, masing2 datang dgn family - kecoh betul rumah tu dgn karenah budak2.sambil2 makan, sembang2 tanya khabar. lepas tu ada meeting kejap, bincang untuk buat gathering yg lebih besar di tempat yg lebih proper dan boleh bermalam - boleh la jumpa lama sikit kan.

emm... kenapa orang suka buat reunion , gathering yek? saya tak pasti pendapat org lain, tp kita berkawan bukan hanya setakat masa zaman sekolah - lepas sek, langsung tak ambik tahu hal rakan2. kawan2 ni la yg banyak tolong kita, tambah2 kami (saya & suami) bersekolah di SBP dr form 1 sampaila form 5. bukan senang hidup di asrama nie , kalau takde kawan2.yela, sekolah di kelantan, rumah saya di perak - kalau weekend tu, org lain ada visitor, kami yg rumah jauh nie tak yah la berharap ada org dtg melawat.issk.., iskhh.., nak nangis lak! ;)

apapun, harap2 next gathering, kami dapat join sama & akan lebih ramai lagi yg attend - jgn la balik2 org yg sama je datang.... ;) nak seribu daya, tak nak seribu dalih, ye tak?

Sunday, January 16, 2011

Sharing is Caring!


alhamdulillah, plan beberapa hari yg lepas nampaknya dapat dilaksanakan. plan nak serah sendiri smart note & exercise bagi kh ert tingkatan 1 kat sue tercapai jugak , sekaligus mempertemukan kami yg sebelum nie contact through blog & fb je. nota kh tu pun sebenarnya belum complete lagi , cuma tu je yg mampu saya tolong setakat nie. terlupa la pulak nak bawak contoh borang markah dan hasil kerja kursus yg sepatutnya dilakukan oleh student kh ert ting 1.

sebenarnya , berdebar gak masa dok tunggu nak jumpa sue nie. yela, rasa malu gak nak jumpa orang yg follow dan baca apa yg kita tulis dlm blog nie (maklumla, byk lg kekurangan blog nie, apa la sgt ye tak kalu nak banding dgn blog org lain yg lagi canggih-manggih tu) tapi sebab dah niat nak tolong, apa salahnya jumpa je, lgpun saya memang pg tempat yg dekat dgn rumah dia. dan alhamdullillah, bila dah jumpa - bertambah seorg lagi rakan saya. sue nie mudah didekati dan murah dgn senyuman, bila kita kenal , rasa macam dah kenal lama.siap bawak buah tangan lagi tau.

apapun, thanx ye sue sebab sudi jengok2 dan guna bahan dlm blog nie (dan juga kpd blogger2 yg lain). bukankah ilmu yg bermanafaat adalah ilmu yg dikongsi bersama?